We will look today at a very powerful exercise called the Trauma Egg. This exercise takes a bit of effort and it is so worth it ! I have learned a lot about myself and my past doing this exercise and I hope you will find it useful.
Short description: You will draw all the traumatic events in your life in an egg.
Material needed: One large sheet of paper (A4 or bigger), pens and crayons
Interest: Looking at the roots of emotional trauma and being able to share it will help you identify your patterns of trauma and the associated coping mechanisms.
The trauma egg was developed as a tool for treating emotional trauma by Marilyn Murray, an internationally-recognized authority on trauma, abuse and its consequences. It is part of what’s known as The Murray Method, which she has developed and expanded upon throughout her more than 30 years of experience.
Time recommended: 2 hours (1 hour to list and draw the egg and the traumas and 1 hour to analyse and share it)
Tips: You might be overwhelmed by emotions as you sometimes relive some of the traumas while drawing them, if you need to take a break and relax, do it. Remember that you are just drawing something that happened in the past and that you are now safe. If you feel that one of the traumas needs more attention, you can draw a mini egg around it to expand it within the big egg. Include even the smallest events as long as you feel that you experienced some emotional pain during that time .
This very deep exercise allows you to share some of the traumas you might have never shared before and gain closure. As you share it and look at it, you become more aware of your traumatic experiences and the beliefs around them. It allows you to see some patterns in the ways you were traumatised in your life and what kind of triggers puts you back in a childlike or vulnerable state. It allows you to deal with the future triggers better, knowing that you don’t need to go back to the inner child to deal with the situation. You can identify how you felt during a certain event, where it came from and how far in your childhood it brought you back. You are then left with some messages that got stuck with you all these years. Messages about how you are or how you sometimes think you should behave. Seeing where these messages come from, shows you what emotional needs you need to fulfill. Example of such messages: “I am a failure”, “I am unsafe”, “I am broken”, “I am not good enough”… You can then ask yourself: “What does my higher power say about these messages?” and “Are these messages true ?”.
Let me know what are your thoughts or comments about the exercise and if you found it helpful.
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